Snicker Doodles and Cosby Sweaters

Okay...someone very close to me said they wanted space and didn't want to hang out.  But when I gave space it's like I'm seen as not talking enough or trying enough. I honestly am confused.  Like I'm always the one fighting to get back to where we were, but they said they don't need me anymore because they are happier alone than talking to me.  I don't get that even after it was explained.  But now they don't like being alone and I'm like, "Hello! *points to self*  And recently I went on a trip about 3 hours away....and I kind of kept it to myself because I was stressed out and needed to regather myself....just get away and take a step back from everything.  But they are upset I didn't say anything....but I brought my laptop to use for when I had wifi and still had my phone even though we don't even text much.    And like if I was actually allowed to hang out....or even see their face for half a second i would definitely need to tell them because there is a chance they would want to see me for a change.  I think they feel I'm hanging with other people to fit in or something....when in fact if they would hang with me like we should be doing right now, a lot of this could have been avoided.  But I'm confused.....like we still act as friends whether it's posting cool and funny stuff on each others walls or something.  But like they said, it all stems from a decision to date someone.  Ever since then they havent trusted my judgement and choices.  I sorta understand that...because yes......I could have sidestepped that whole issue.  But when they had an even bigger situation, i never said i don't trust them...or their choices...i never said i wanted distance from them.....even after I said not to see someone they still ended up seeing.  It's because I knew it would all work out...and I knew and loved them long enough to know that even though they weren't listening to me either, they learned from that mistake and they even said it made them better.  All I asked was for that same chance for me to be better from learning and not criticized so much for something everyone goes through.  Like they said, we don't know if we will ever get back as close as we once were, but I do know that as long as we both realize that best friends don't have to go through this, but work on it as a real team.....then we might actually begin the right path back to where we were....because life is too short not to have one of the most important people in your life for any amount of time....especially when God gives is so little time to bond with people..........